Just some things

Would you condemn a man for doing what is best for him and his family? Think carefully before you answer that question. People will do things unexpected when they're wounded emotionally.

I understand the pain, and the feelings of betrayal. I get that it's a "family", though only lately have I seen that "family" mentality really return, which is a really good thing if it really is returning. However, I don't understand the treatment of a friend that has loved and been loved by others, FOR 9 YEARS.  It's down right cold, and in my opinion, unwarranted.


This wasn't done to intentionally hurt or betray anyone. It was a decision that was led to that conclusion through MONTHS of prayer and counsel. It was made because we felt God was calling us to go, and it was made because we knew there were areas that we just did not belong. We felt it would be inappropriate for us to tell people about our plan, as it would only cause unnecessary drama. We also had a plan to break the news, and it was laid out ahead of time, it just didn't happen in the time frame we thought it would. That was completely out of our control. We didn't intend to hurt anyone (we were denied letting certain people know and when we offered explanation we were again denied) and I'm sorry that the concern is mainly on the fact that you're missing a drummer (which could've been easily remedied) and not on the fact that you're missing a "dear" friend.


There is a big show of being a family now, great, it wasn't there before the departure. I have watched as I encouraged my husband to reach out to friends only to see him, get rejected just about every time.
Being in a church is not about being loyal to people...it's about being loyal to the Lord. He is who we serve and we knew he was asking us to move on.
We really tried to make it as painless as possible. That didn't happen for anyone.


I love my husband and I love our life. We look forward to what God has in store for us, because God called us to this place. And he brought us here for a reason.